relationship

When two people join in intimate relationship sexuality, personal confidence, sex drive and life's anxieties come together in a mix that can easily go wrong. Even a small incompatibility in one area can have huge implications if it stops the physical or emotional processes of love going smoothly. Because of the taboos around sex, where even the two people in a relationship often cannot talk openly to each other, such problems escalate or fester, never reaching a good resolution. Stand-offs develop with partners deeply in denial much of the time, not even realizing that real life, real living, is passing them by. Its easy to avoid sorting it out, but at huge cost in terms of happiness. Stuck in a relationship that needs work, avoiding new relationships after the end of the old, these problems can threaten your happiness, your relationship, your partner's happiness.

Not being able to start relationships: too little confidence to start dating, difficulty with finding the right person, getting past the essential ‘key points’, difficulty with combining a new found sexuality or gender with the mate finding process. Fear of the opposite gender, anguish after failed attempts or failed relationships. Trauma from the past, ghosts not yet laid. Fear of sex, too, it can be as simple and basic as that. And of course, the issues of lack of fidelity: you or your partners’. The lack of trust, the uncertainty of which way to go, the fear of opening up the issue. Overcoming abuse, yours or your partner's: the final insult of many rapes is the husband's subsequent rejection of his abused partner.

The rocky way back, or the uncomfortable lonely road ahead. Relationship problems are responsive to a fresh approach, to coach through the stuck-ness or the fear, to see things in a new light. Or just to use the support as you get to that fearful place and broach the issue. I can help to end relationships constructively, not my favorite work, but it can save some wreckage: let both partners move on faster, happier than they otherwise would.

And... coaching can be used to just enhance the positive too, there don’t HAVE to be problems, just dreams and ambitions not yet realised.