sexuality

Sexuality is very complex, and with such huge expectations created by society, family, partners or even yourself, starting to get to grips with problems can be tricky. Non-judgmental professional help can alleviate suffering and anguish, can help you move on to accept and explore your true self.

In this I include the obvious contenders for ‘problems’ with sexuality: being homosexual, bisexual or asexual. But there are plenty of other shades of grey that cause dysfunctionality or create guilt: being too highly sexed, undersexed, concerns over libido. Not liking sex, being afraid of sex, not comfortable about sex or your sexual role.

Worry less at this stage what is wrong, be more concerned about the scale of the problem. Is it ruining your life? Do you fear that it is going to get worse? Is it something you are afraid to face? Is it unthinkable to approach your worst fears over your sexuality? Or are you just plain confused?

Or is your lack of libido, your concern over your sexuality or some physical or psychological problem causing havoc within your relationship? Sometimes the driving force to overcome a challenge or a problem is not for yourself, but for your partner. But in the end, if you are in a deep relationship, any problem affecting one person also affects their partner. Trying to ‘keep the lid on’ a problem, to deny its presence leads to an unlived life, denied not only to you, but to your partner as well. However unwelcome certain news may be, its usually better than denial of life itself.

You will find that being able to talk openly about the problems is half way to being able to face them. With coaching as well, in facing the issues and taking positive steps to deal with it, you should find it relatively easy to begin to move on. Even though you may be facing a huge issue, it can be approached in small steps, one at a time. The first may be to start talking.